The right dating site for you is the one the best fits who you are and what you are. You need to be clear about yourself and your goal – your personality type and what you are want. Among the most important things to consider are:

1. Your likes and dislikes

2. Your interests and hobbies

3. The type of relationship you want.

If you are new to online dating, or are simply seeking a companion, the best path is the one that leads to popular dating sites. If marriage or a long term relationship is the goal, then go for a matchmaking site.

There are also dating sites that cater to adult needs, as well as sub-categories of the adult niche such as encounters, BDSM, fetish, swinging et al.

Special interest and community dating sites also exist for almost anything you can think of…outdoor or fitness enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians etc…well, almost anything you can think of. So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.

There are free sites. Not recommended but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and profile matching systems. There are also less expensive paid sites but, naturally, with fewer features.

Here are some things to consider when choosing a dating service:

1. Database: Obviously, you don’t want to be in a site where you are the only girl. You also need choice so that you may come to, hopefully, the best match for what you want in a mate.

2. Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership(s)?

3. Features. Which features are the most important to you?

a) Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?

b) Chat and IM? There are websites who offer chat rooms, live web (or video) chat and IM (Instant Messaging) on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy with just email?

c) Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?

d) Privacy: Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?

e) Safety. There are websites that perform background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and criminal background. Would you feel safer using this feature?

These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service. Do your homework, choose wisely and you might find the just the person you seek.

David Kamau offers objective dating site reviews and online dating tips at his website. Now find out how to receive free best-selling ebooks on Romantic Ideas and tips about dating.

Valentine’s Day has shadows of both the Christian and Roman traditions. Celebrated famously on February 14 every year, some believe that Valentine’s Day has its history and origin in the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalia. The latter was an annual feasting and celebration by the Romans to keep fearful wolves at bay from damaging their crops. Lupercalia was celebrated on February 15 with the young men striking the women because it was believed that these blows would make them more fertile. This association of Lupercalia with fertility is probably one reason why Valentine’s Day is linked to this ancient Roman festival. Also, on the eve of Lupercalia, which is on February 14, it was quite popular for young women to find their partners for the festival. The romantic origin of Valentine’s Day can even be traced to this practice.

No matter what the history and origin of Valentine’s Day includes, it sure includes this patron saint named St. Valentine. Now history even has it that there has been more than one legend related to St. Valentine. Summing two legends, we now know that there were two saints (of the same name Valentine) belonging to the early Christian church. One legend holds that when the Roman Emperor Claudius II forbade young men to marry to make better soldiers out of single men, a priest named Valentine defied the orders and secretly married young couples. Consequently he was beheaded on February 14 for his ‘crime’. Some even hold that Valentine was killed for trying to help Christians escape the atrocities prevailing in the Roman prisons. But whatever the facts, ever since, February 14 came to be celebrated as Valentine’s Day commemorating this great patron of people in love worldwide. The other story talks of another Valentine who was a children’s favorite but was despised by the Romans for his religious defiance. The Romans had him behind the bars but the children still managed to send fond messages to their favorite Valentine. The current custom of exchanging love messages on Valentine’s Day might have roots to this age-old tale.

Yet another legend holds that when Valentine was in prison, he fell in love with the prison guard’s daughter. And history states that before his death, he wrote a letter to his beloved signing off as ‘From your Valentine’. It’s not known to which extent these Valentine’s Day legends related to its origin are true, but this expression ‘From your Valentine’ sure caught hold like wildfire. And people still send gifts and cards on Valentine’s Day with this tag hanging from them—‘From your Valentine’! So you keep the tradition going too.

Probably, the Americans began exchanging handmade Valentine’s Day cards in the early years of the eighteenth century. And around 1840, a person called Esther A. Howland began selling the first big production of Valentine’s Day greetings in America. Now, apart from all the facts and figures of Valentine’s Day history and origin, one thing that’s for sure is the choice of February as the month for celebrating love. In ancient Rome, February was the official kick-off month for the season of spring and was a time to feel happy all over again. Then in the Middle Ages, it was quite a popular belief in France and England that February was the birds’ mating season. All these and many more taken together contributed to the consolidation of mid-February as the time for Valentines.

Finally, around 498 AD, Pope Gelasius I declared February 14 as St. Valentine’s Day!

Sean Carter writes on holidays, Valentine’s Day and world events. He also writes on family, relationships, celebrations, religion, love and friendship. He is a writer with special interest in ecard industry and writes for 123greetings.com. He is an
active blogger at Valentines Day Blog.

It’s very simple. Just ‘be’ the ’social alpha’ in any environment you go in (every environment if you can).

It’s not really a secret that high status people and celebrities have women chasing them and that they can get sex a lot.

Is it their ‘personality’, is it their looks? is it their ‘inner game’? Or is it something that is sort of apathetic in a way?

Yes, it’s the female desire to be connected with high status.

It matters now more than ever (unfortunately) because the American and other Western cultures have become an extremely socio-centric culture. There’s more importance than ever placed upon social status.

It’s quite easy to see the things women will do to gain higher social status and it’s kind of ridiculous. Look at t.v. shows like swimsuit or modeling competitions. So many industries are formed by the desire and exploitation of higher female social status.

So just be the guy that’s high social status or who has high social value and you’re in.

Women will crawl out of the woodwork and be more interested all of a sudden when you have some social status (including money and nice cars, social proof (other women being interested in you) or see that you have social favor and power.

It’s a great tool of leverage to massively attract women but it’s up to you to have control over it and not let gold-digging women use you.

If you can keep relational authority over your relationships with these ’status’ desiring women by differentiating your goal with them and their desire for your money, you will have a lot of success and sex.

These things can be called ‘attractor’s’ and they’re great for starting new relationships but it’s up to you to weed through the gold-diggers and to have the character to take it to where you want the relationship to go anyways.

A lot of rich guys don’t have the natural character strength to take things to the bedroom and end up getting used by all kinds of socially leeching gold-diggers who are just looking for higher social status and privilege.

That is all ’social character’ and it is the root of many man’s demise, not to mention the source of tortuous conflict within women when it comes to the nature of attraction and emotional pure desire itself.

It’s up to you to differentiate a woman’s natural character (even J.Lo has one) from her acquired socially adaptive behavior.

So how do you ‘be’ high social status to attract women?

Social proof (basically having other seemingly high status women interested in you); this will work miracles.

Money, looks, fame, popular talent, cars, money, money..

But what about if you don’t have those things? Since women are looking for equal or higher value in a man than they are it’s going to be difficult to compare to pro athletes and celebrities.

Having social skill or networking abilities is important then. When you can simply connect yourself with other high status, powerful people then you are essentially a social ‘equal’ of theirs.

Social networking is a great way to invite lots of beautiful women into your lifestyle. And you’d better have ’some kind of’ social skill in a matrix that is so focused on it.

To gain access to these people you will often have to not only be a relational equal (independent and unashamed in your own right), you will probably have to offer something of value in exchange for group status.

Interdependence is the key to fast-forward your social status by getting connected with other powerful people. But you have to be equal in the beginning instead of feeling ‘further down the social hierarchy’.

Overall, being a high social character man is the least important in life, but having it balanced within your foundational character (natural and inner) can lead to an exciting lifestyle that will open up all kinds of doors to plentiful relationships where the women can see the true you.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

How can you be the sole ’cause’ of female behaviorism and it’s effect when they don’t even know you? There a LOT more going on than you thought and it’s outside of yourself.

Though it’s up to you to be accountable..

There’s a larger reason than just yourself as to why things ended up the way they did. It starts with a great ’cause’ and ‘why’ that is much greater than your daily routine.

Believe it or not, there is reasoning within all of this if you are a decent looking guy who has at least average attributes.

Our grandparents did not have a problem. Both men and women have changed as the part of a great socio-cultural change. Women have changed even more than the men have.

You have been a part of a great causal reality that has created a massive behavioral effect on men and women.

Your cognition of this reality will not only help to liberate your mind and take a lot of the anxiety away, it’s the main reason why you haven’t been successful with women in the first place.

Sure it’s easy for people to point fingers at you and for you to blame yourself. The social anxiety helps to isolate you more and you’ve probably built up a great fantasy world as an outlet for that negative sexual transmutation.

I’m here to say relax. Once you can get an idea of ‘why’ you will understand that the behavior was not just on your own fault but also with women and you were both a part of this unnatural influence.

Once you can see that the matrix of social influence is just a consciously derived and unnatural program meant to exploit, manipulate, control and profit you’ll begin to see.

Once you are aware that architects influenced the behavior of women to act unnatural and for men to build up the fantasy of exploited sexuality, you’ll begin to see.

Once they could get sexploitation to a level of social desirability where more of the mainstream women could adapt to it they could profit immensely more in multiple industries.

Once you can fully realize that it’s not your fault for the Architects and executives wanting to exploit and profit off of you and these women instead of it just being your own ‘inner game’, you’ll start to see.

Once you can realize you can improve your ‘inner game’ all you want and still be ignorant to the relational truth that has veiled over you your whole life, you’ll begin to see. You’ll begin to be set free.

Once you can realize that what is accepted on a mass scale is the reason for relationship isolation and divergent fantasy worlds instead of healthier relationships, you’ll begin to see. There are more singles now than ever and that’s just the beginning.

Women are repressed. Men are repressed. Women live conflicting lives of living up to these superficial social expectations that has become their reality and yet living in conflict with their completely repressed natural, feminine character.

The fantasy reality that seems so visceral is really just a visage. It’s unnatural and it’s fleeting. It is not even the true sexual nature of a woman and it’s not what she responds to.

If it’s your goal to ‘get laid’, think beyond that. Think about becoming a stronger man who has and keeps relational power around the women you want. Then make some connections and it will happen.

The art of seduction itself is simply bringing out a woman’s natural character. It’s not dealing with her social character and struggling in a power game.

You have been conditioned and repressed for so long that there may seem like there is no more hope. There is always hope. Beautiful women are often in psychological torment because of this conflicting reality and they’re just as lonely as you.

It doesn’t matter your looks; what matters is how a woman feels around your character because she is truly the response in mating because she is the internal reproducer, she has to be more selective.

Do not think you’re beyond the point of no return. I know a 51 year old virgin from my hometown who is a good-looking, debt-free guy with 2 Harley-Davidson’s. He is frustrated also but he does have to high of expectations.

He’s built up the fantasy too much to almost ever face reality and start something real or commit to it. Don’t get into that trap.

To change you will have to get rid of the disempowering social conditioning and garbage that has cluttered your mind and held you back from the power you never knew you had.

This is more than a quick fix and it’s only for men who are sick and tired of being sick and tired. It’s never too late to start from where you’re at.

When you have the power and ability to ‘be’ what women want and can attract and deal with them, your life will change furthermore.

Study Alpha Relational Dynamics if you want a true change without the hype but with real physiological change and results. It’s more powerful than pheromones but you have to be ready for change.

I can help you leverage truth that extends well beyond your limited and psychologically damaged ‘inner game’ when it comes to self-esteem and dating.

The most powerful man in the world’s own ‘inner game’ is limited in comparison to his natural character and a woman’s social character.

It’s time to yield some leverage and actualize your natural character of becoming and being an Alpha male. At that point and on the way, ‘getting laid’ will be a part of your reality.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

Things to Remember Before Valentine’s Day
Do something to remind you to plan early, such as writing a note.

Don’t wait until the last minute to prepare.

• Make dinner reservations.

• Preorder flowers.

• Get her a card before they are picked through.

• Arrange a babysitter yourself; don’t make her do it.

She needs to know that she knows that she is special to you, that she is your top priority.

Remember, you want to bring a smile to her face or a tear to her eye.

Do something so out of the ordinary that you surprise even yourself.

Special Valentine’s Day Plans

• Look through your wedding album together.

• Make her a Valentine’s card.

• Place a Valentine’s card under her pillow.

• Place a flower under her car windshield wiper.

• Hide a love note among a bouquet of flowers.

• Deliver a Valentine to her place of work.

• Leave notes that give clues to a restaurant where you are taking her.

• Blindfold her and take her to a nice dinner.

• Take the day off and spend it treating her like the special woman she is.

• Have breakfast, lunch and dinner by candlelight.

• Make a banner that says Happy Valentine’s Day.

• Give her a dozen red roses or a dozen of her favorite flowers.

• Make a CD of love songs that are special to the two of you.

• Write her a love letter or poem.

• Make a list of the reasons you fell in love with her.

• Take her on a picnic.

• Pray for her and your relationship together.

• Recreate your first date, proposal, or some other special moment.

• Commit yourself to her in some way: promise you will strive to live up to your wedding vows; to have more fun in the relationship; or to be more spiritually focused as a partner.

It’s the Simple Things that Matter…

• Kiss her hand the right way by lowering your lips to her hand.

• Whisper something loving in her ear.

• Wish her Happy Valentine’s Day first thing in the morning.

• Choose a Valentine’s Day card before they are picked through.

• Ask her to be your Valentine.

Mark Webb is the author of How To Be A Great Partner and founder of Partner Focused Relationships™. Sign up for Mark Webb’s “Relationship Strategies” Ezine ($100 Value). Just visit his website at http://www.powerfulrelationshipadvice.com or http://www.therelationshipspecialist.com

Let’s start by saying that romance can and should be a vibrant, ongoing part of every relationship. Think of romance as a lifetime, life-style choice.

The usual thought regarding romance is that it is special, but primarily short-lived moments of sweet connection at the beginning of the relationship. After a few months, at best, these stimulating experiences are expected to fade.

Why its important-understanding its significance When we are first connecting with a new love, each moment spent together is full of new discoveries. We marvel at the delightful ways they engage us, we cling to their words, are intrigued by who they are and what makes them so very special. We want to know and understand the nuances of this person – we want to be close, feel connected, touch and be touched. It’s a heart-pounding, vibrant, energizing experience of love and devotion.

This is when we are building a foundation, a platform from which to strengthen and grow the love and passion. Each encounter has us anticipating a new sensation, deeper appreciation and special moments.

Romance is an experience filled with pleasure, joy and delight. It’s those wonderfully intense feelings and emotions that bring two people closer in their search to understand how to be with each other. You go through this experience in a most natural way, not consciously

What does it take? How is romance displayed? What type of behaviour makes us romantic? Being romantic is a mindset, a choice, a philosophy based on a desire to sustain and deepen your relationship. There are many stages, but the foundation, based on what you value and treasure in your relationship remains unchanging.

o Pay close attention. There is nothing more appreciated than someone noticing details about what you say and do. It says, “I’m interested and want to know more about you everyday”. Those details you pick up will give you the ideas when you’re searching for special ways to say “I love you”.

o Be expressive. That means communicating what you feel about your relationship and why that person is so special. Communication can take many different forms, verbal and non-verbal, keeping a constant flow and building a stronger understanding of what the other needs and desires.

o Create special moments. Even the smallest gesture or activity will result in appreciation. Looking for ways to confirm what you know and feel will refresh and renew who you are as a couple.

o A generous, open spirit. Romance is giving with a free open heart, without expecting reciprocation. You simply know that the act will please your sweetheart and that, in itself, is enough.

o Create rituals. There are sometimes small things that the two of you do together on a regular basis. Most of the time it’s a daily or weekly gesture or activity, like kissing before you go to bed or having a cup of morning coffee together.

o Be loving. If this person is the best thing that has ever happened to you, then you need to consistently let them know that by being affectionate, sweet, warm and kind. Conscious, deliberate actions reaffirm that person to be most special.

o Be curious. It very easy to assume that you know everything about your sweetheart after a certain length of time and lose your natural curiosity. Always displaying a willingness to find out more about your partner will open many doors to discover the many layers of their character and personality. Learn what makes your sweetheart happy and do it.

Realizing that you have a choice in how your journey of romance continues, can bring a renewed sense of purpose and accountability. Understanding that you are instrumental in determining how vibrant your romantic life can be is very empowering. Acknowledging that the romance does not have to die, but can be a constant force of stimulation, renewal and pleasure is operating from a point of strength. Romance can play a significant part of mature, long-lasting love.

What we need to understand is that the intensity and maybe even the frequency of the encounters may change, but the fundamental nature of how we are experiencing each other remains intact. Your romantic gestures and interactions can be the bonding factor that maintains the energy and reaffirms the love to sustain your relationship.

Express your feelings in a very special way through these very unique romantic audio poems. Find the one that expresses what you want to say and send to your sweetheart.

I have personally never hidden my disgust and disdain for so-called players or pick-up artists. I find them to be modern world’s scum of the worst kind, mainly because many of them deliberately try to destabilize, degrade, or diminish another person’s self concept, world view, emotional control, awareness and interpretation of reality, in order to gain advantage over that person.

And please don’t give me that crap about “women who want men they can dominate”. I come from generations of warriors – 7 foot tall, all lean muscle with (you-know what) danggling all the way to the knee. Brave warriors who fight lions with just a spear (they don’t come any more masculine than that!). The lowest low any warrior can go is attack someone who has fallen down. It is considered cowardice of the lowest order – one not even a scavenging vulture or hyena can stoop down to.

But this article is not about self-acclaimed players, it is about self-acclaimed “Nice Guys”. This is “nice” not in the sense of sensitive and attentive but “nice” like in wimpy clingy compliant puppy dog kind of men.

Let me back up a little. There are two kinds of “Nice Guys.” There is the “Nice guy” who is thoughtful, confident (emotionally, physically and sexually) and can be relied on to take charge and get things done. He is called “Nice” because he is sensitive, attentive and considerate. In other words he doesn’t pretend to be the Alpha Male because he is also in touch with his feminine side. This is the rare breed of men. And ladies, if you’ve got one, hold on tight.

Then there is the “Nice guy” who exhibits some even slightly non masculine (and nonsexual) tendencies, which typically arise from a desire to be “sensitive, attentive and considerate” but quite often backfires because “Mr. Nice” often confuses “spineless” with “sensitive” and attentiveness with indecisiveness. These are guys who may have been raised by females who were very manipulative and controlling and as a result these men have not learned healthy ways of relating to women. But that’s not the worst part, these “Nice Guys” have also become great at playing the “victim” role and use this to manipulate and control women in the worst possible imaginable ways.

Maybe you will say, “Wait a minute. Nice Guys could never ever manipulate or control a woman. They are the victims here”. And that is where you are dead wrong. It might surprise you to learn that just as ‘Players” advertise themselves as “Alpha Males”, these “Nice Guys” advertise an identity of “Weak Victim.” “Alpha Males” pride themselves in persuading and breaking down resistance by use of “domination”. “Nice Guys” use “victimization” which interestingly appeals to women who have that natural instinct to “mother” and often want to “rescue” and “take care” of this poor, misunderstood, mistreated and abused “Nice Guy”. This is the “Nice Guy’s” position of power and control.

But I have to be fair. These “Nice Guys” on most part are not themselves even aware that they are caught up in the unconscious desire to feel victimized. All they know is that they’re always clinging to the women that they’re afraid of losing. They are always clinging to any slight indication of friendliness on a woman’s part. They will stalk her, beg her, turn themselves inside out and even kiss ass, if that is what it takes for her to look their direction. They seem to never get a break, at least not enough “love” for them to feel like “not victim”.

Like any kind of manipulation it comes back to bite “Nice Guy” ass, same as the “Alpha Male”. Manipulative techniques attract equally manipulative women.

If you are acclaimed “Nice Guy” and really tired of chasing, begging and clinging, realize that it’s never too late to change. Stop looking at your struggles right from childhood as “only pain and suffering” and realize that, that same pain and suffering also have endowed you with a sensitive side and has brought you in touch with your feminine side which is a very attractive quality to women – especially when it’s not overdone like you do.

Give up the pride of feeling victimized, along with your secret hope to taste revenge for all the hurt and abuse you have ever suffered – and you could be living the relationship of your dreams. Meanwhile Mr. Alpha Male continues his quest for world domination! Ha!

About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned
Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of e-Books: The Art Of
Seducing Out Of Fullness, Breaking A Bad Relationships Pattern, and
Playing Hard-To-Get The Love Way.

“Well, where else are you supposed to meet people?” he said with an air of defeat. “I don’t like the bars. I’ve tried the dating clubs.”

He might as well have said to her, “Look, I’m only on the hike today to meet a woman, and I’m striking up a conversation with you to see if you might be her. I’m very unhappy on my own right now. And no matter where I go or where I look, I strike out. I’m frustrated. Are you her?”

Well, would you want to date a man like that? I wouldn’t. I’d be afraid he’d be expecting me to hand him HIS life and HIS happiness on a silver platter.

How much more attractive and vital he would have been if he’d been on the hike to enjoy the exercise, fresh air, and nature with an upbeat attitude. Then, he’d be spending his time doing something he really enjoyed and VERY LIKELY he’d make new friends who enjoy the same activities. But with his whiny attitude, I wasn’t surprised to hear he was having trouble “meeting people”.

I always set out to enjoy the activity, don’t worry about “meeting” someone, and come home feeling I’ve enjoyed myself. And I meet lots of people. It doesn’t matter if they are a romantic prospect or not. Imagine, if I went on a hike LOOKING FOR A ROMANTIC PARTNER. Most times, I’d be coming home disappointed and discouraged, instead of recharged from the exercise, and I’d soon start to feel and sound like our dejected gentleman hiker.

It’s so unattractive.

Your goal must be happiness, not a partner. Concentrate on expanding your social network, not finding “the one”. Cultivate friendships of both sexes, of all ages, wherever you go. People know people.

The more people you know, the more people you’ll meet through them, and the more fulfilling and fun your life will become. And you MUST enjoy your life. The moment you do, you’ll PROJECT yourself as someone who’s enjoying her life, and that is very, very, attractive. The social and dating invitations naturally follow. Vital, attractive, happy, confident, dateable, single people are not standing on every street corner. Become one of them, and like-minded people will naturally want to seek you out.

Do NOT go out there in the world “looking” for “the one”. Ever.

Have you ever heard you find love when you’re not looking? It made no sense to me, for the longest time. I thought people were trying to suggest I’d stumble on romance as soon as I managed to stop wanting one. And since romance is so lovely, almost everyone wants one!

But here’s the deal: When you’re “looking” for love, you’re looking desperate. It’s as simple as that. I absolutely disagree 100 per cent with the notion that one should tell everyone they know they’re “looking” for a romantic partner, as if that would increase one’s chances. In fact, it will have the opposite effect. I would have no desire to date a man broadcasting to the universe he was “looking” for a relationship. How could I be sure he wanted ME, and not just a warm body doubling as a security blanket?

But if you’re “out there” looking for fun, friendships, adventure and new experiences, you get very, very happy with the process. You enjoy the journey, and stop worrying about the destination. You’re confident. You glow. And you begin to ATTRACT things TO yourself. Part of what you’ll attract is romantic interest. Trust me. It’s like magic. People want to be around happy, confident, glowing people.

So don’t forget the Golden Rule. Unless you’re practicing the world’s oldest profession, don’t ever step outside your front door LOOKING for love. Go out there looking to spread some joy, meet new people and enjoy your life.

Karin J. MacKenzie is a 40-something, single woman and the author of, “Live a Fabulous Single Life… and Attract All the Friendships, Romance and Adventure You Can Handle”. Visit http://www.singlejoy.ca

Copywriters learn certain techniques to make a product very appealing to a prospective buyer. Here it is in a nutshell:

• Start with a compelling headline about yourself. This will grab the attention of your readers.
• Need a compelling sub-heading – This might or might not work with a profile. It depends on the dating site you joined. It will reinforce the headline copy.
• Write a knockout first paragraph to make the reader want to read the rest of your sales letter (profile). Include towards the end a paragraph that will tell the reader what they will miss if they don’t contact you!
• Sell your “benefits”.

Copywriters always discuss the A.I.D.A. principle. This is:

• Grab Attention
• Stimulate Interest
• Build Up Desire
• Urge the reader into Action

Remember, you might not want to accept that you are selling yourself. But, you are. You are selling your “benefits”. Why should someone e-mail your profile over the millions of other profiles on the dating site? So, don’t be shy, sell your benefits! Most copywriters know that if they can’t sell the benefits, they won’t make the sale. The same applies to an online dating profile.

Another principle copywriters learn is to find the products USP or “Unique Selling Position.” All a unique selling position means is you must find out what is different about you that is special over all the other profiles. In a crowded marketplace you want to appear different and unique.

We all have something unique to offer. We just have to discover it. So, the best way I can think of is take a pen and brainstorm for a few minutes. Write down everything you can think of about yourself that you see as a benefit you will add to a relationship. There is lot’s of things you can offer a relationship that is different and better than other profiles. It might be hard at first but I am sure things will come to you.

What is interesting in the marketplace that a lot of products are very similar to each other. The more creative copywriters will be able to discern something all products have and write some convincing copy that makes the common benefit appear unique to their product. This is how to write a “Unique Selling Point”.

Another trick is to think of yourself as the person reading your profile. Ask yourself, “What’s in it for me” or “How can this benefit me” for each thing you have put down on your list. You will come up with your Unique Selling Point.

Let’s touch upon the most important part of your profile. It is your headline. Research shows that 8 out of 10 people scan the headlines in a newspaper or sales letter. When they find headlines that appeal to them they will read at least the first paragraph. If your headline doesn’t interest them then they move on to the next one until they find one that they like. You have just lost a prospective customer.

So, start with your best “benefit” first and put it in your headline. Get your prospect interested from the beginning and pile on lot’s of great copy and “close the sale.”

One last thing you should know about your dating profile. Honesty is the best policy when you write your free online dating profile. If one day you do decide to meet a person who has read your profile, then you will have a lot of explaining to do if you lied. And, probably that one reason ruins the start of what could be a successful relationship.

Now, add a little humor and your good to go.

If you follow these simple steps, your mailbox will be filled with people wanting to chat and possibly meet with you. Good Luck and above all have fun!

Ken Katz writes for online dating reviews 1udate.com has lots of online dating site reviews free online dating site reviews and information to help you understand internet dating and finding the partner of your dreams.

1. Never Reveal Too Much
You aren’t an open book, and you don’t need to be. Sometimes the best way to attract your Sugar Daddies is to keep them guessing. A little mystery goes a long way, so flirt and keep a few things to yourself. When you’re getting to know your man, you’ll have more to reveal and to discuss if you kept a secret or two in the beginning.

Our Hint:
One perfect way to get a guy interested without revealing too much starts at your username. Guys want something that shows a little personality — not a random grouping of numbers and letters. Use a cute nickname or clever saying for a little added personality. Avoid anything too romantic or cheesy, though, like “Looking4Romeo” or “ImJuliet”. Men find that to be too much!

2. Photo Tips and Hints
Your picture may be the first thing that guys look at, so try your best to keep it as intriguing as possible. Try to keep the photo at a reasonable size for viewing – not teeny-tiny and not screen-sized – but something that you expect from your potential suitors as well.

Before you know your Sugar Daddy well, it’s important to keep things tasteful. Some men—particularly older ones – are keen on finding a girl with class. Save your wild side for later. Most older men aren’t interested in someone who seems to be an exhibitionist at first glance, but someone who intrigues them. Choose one photo that highlights what’s right but keep things as nice as you can. It’s often more alluring than the real thing – so keep them guessing.

What if you’re not comfortable posting your photo? That’s okay, too. You’ll simply need to make up for the lack of a photo with personality and a truly interesting profile. When you get to know one guy well, you may feel more comfortable sharing your photos.

General hints and tips:

• High quality photos in a substantial size will send the message that there’s nothing to hide, and you’re totally comfortable with yourself.

• Don’t have you photo look too “posed”. It’s always better to look comfortable and as though you’re having a good time, not that you are super serious or boring.

• Avoid photos in a bikini, thong, or low-cut shirt. It’s probably not going to send the right image to your man, so save them for later!

3. Keep Your Self-Confidence High
When you are looking for your own Sugar Daddy, consider yourself your own publicist. It’s easier to find a partner if you really feel good about yourself. If there are some aspects about yourself that you may feel uncomfortable or insecure about, don’t lie — just go for a positive slant.

Our Hint:
Nothing is sexier to your Sugar Daddy than good old confidence. If you’re between jobs, don’t consider yourself unemployed or (even worse) unemployable. Think of answers that make you feel good about yourself but that aren’t far from the truth. They will add to your appeal.

4. The Juggling Scheme: Keeping Balanced
Men love a woman with interests. In the search for your Sugar Daddy, don’t forget about the personal interests that make you stand out in a crowd. Work on your photography, cooking, or language skills — just don’t forget about what makes you tick!

Sugar Daddies want a cultured woman, someone with skills to set her apart from the crowd. You may not think that your interests are special, but it’s essential to mention what’s important to you, be it modern dancing, politics, fashion, art, sports, or literature. You’ll add a little mystery to yourself and give your Sugar Daddy something to remember you by.

5. When to Back Off
Sugar Daddies can be busy men, so sometimes it can be to your advantage to give him a little space. Don’t overwhelm your potential partners with too many messages or pouncing as soon as he’s online. While it’s important to maintain interest, you don’t want to scare anyone away, either. Maintain your cool to keep him coming back. If you play your cards right, he will.

No matter how successful you are in attracting your Sugar Daddy, it’s best to stay reasonable. Narrow down your potential Sugar Daddies down to a key few, because if you try to correspond with too many at once, you’ll end up sounding strained. You run the risk of sounding uninterested — or the least intriguing of the bunch. You’ve got to attract your Sugar Daddy the best you can, and following our tips can definitely help you out.

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