This seems, on the surface, a selfish thing to do; that is, to look at ourselves, but until we do, we will be lost in our illusions of life. Illusions are images, and when we live in images, we never live life directly and fully. Living life fully requires living life’s realities, not its illusions.

Looking at ourselves causes pain, but pain is where character is forged, so this pain will be beneficial. It will be painful nevertheless, but this pain is a pain that ends all pain, unlike the happiness and joy we think holds off our pain, only to find disappointment time and again when our illusions of happiness and joy suddenly end.

Dismantling the tangled ball of a lifetime of misunderstandings is something few attempt or understand. Most merely sleepwalk through life never understanding why things don’t work out for them or their relationships, so now you have a leg-up on most of humanity. Now you are on your way to unconditional love.

The words you have just read planted a seed, and the seed will someday grow. Life will be investigated more closely then, and your life will become open, a breath of fresh air will enter it. Relationships will become open as well, and there will be less fear of the other’s motives, because when you understand your own motives, there can be no further secrets.

And someday, your mess inside will become calm and peaceful, and you will discover that the negative self you could never before love doesn’t exist. This is where unconditional love happens, exactly at that point when you let your “self” go, and in letting it go, it no longer creates fear in you. Then you find yourself somehow loving yourself, and when your “self” is no longer taking up so much room, there is only the other.

Then you can truly love.

E. Raymond Rock of Fort Myers, Florida is cofounder and principal teacher at the Southwest Florida Insight Center, http://www.SouthwestFloridaInsightCenter.com His twenty-eight years of meditation experience has taken him across four continents, including two stopovers in Thailand where he practiced in the remote northeast forests as an ordained Theravada Buddhist monk. His book, A Year to Enlightenment (Career Press/New Page Books) is now available at major bookstores and online retailers. Visit http://www.AYearToEnlightenment.com

If all of this fits, then emotion takes over in the form of strong desire, and if the relationship proceeds on track, the desire becomes merely an attachment and a clinging if the most important attribute, the one we haven’t discussed yet, doesn’t come into play.

Think about when the desire begins to fade, as it will, and when the attachment and clinging becomes no more than a security thing; then what? This is the point when a relationship will either survive or fail, depending on the psychological needs of each partner and how strongly they require sensual stimulations. Approximately 50 % of marriages fail, and the number of failed relationships, although unknown, eclipses that figure for sure.

So the question is; what lengths would you be prepared to go to, to insure the survival of your relationship? If I could tell you what was the most important thing in a relationship, and that this most important thing would almost certainly insure your relationship’s survival, and . . . if it didn’t cost any money (and very little time), would you consider it?

This most important thing creates harmony in any relationship between human beings. Without it, we sink to our survival instincts of selfish greed, hatred, and confusion about life. This most important thing has nothing to do with religious beliefs or ideals; it is a very human element. We could call it love, however love has many faces, and the love we speak of here is not a love where we might love one but hate another, because that “other” could easily become you someday. If the capacity for hatred remains inside of us, it’s only a matter of time before that hatred is turned on those we supposedly love – the hatred is too painful to hold inside and must be released, usually on the ones nearest and dearest. This is because the “love” we thought we had for each other had been no more than lust and attachment, not authentic love at all.

Authentic love means that we love everybody. And it’s not a gushy love; it’s more mature than that. It’s respect, compassion, wisdom – all rolled up into one – and that one thing that is the most important in a relationship is . . . “Unconditional Love.” The person who has developed unconditional love will love you from a deeper level than merely lust or attachment. This person will love you for the same reason that he or she loves humanity, because they do not set themselves apart from humanity; they are an integral part of it.

So look for unconditional love in a person; it’s easy to spot. And when you spot it, make certain that you can respond in kind. This special love, however, is either in your heart or not, and if it isn’t, first acknowledge that it is not there, and then do something about it.

To do something about it, begin with sitting quietly every evening for a few minutes and watch the many thoughts that flit through your mind. The fearful thoughts are the ones that keep you from unconditional love, and all you have to do is acknowledge them as you sit quietly and wait for the next thought to appear. Picture yourself on a freeway overpass, and the cars and trucks passing below your thoughts. Don’t jump into one and go for a ride, just watch them pass below and out of sight without becoming involved. This is how unconditional love is born, because our thoughts are our “selves,” and as we slowly distance ourselves from our negative thoughts, we slowly distance ourselves from our negative “selves,” and when we do that, the hatred we once had for those we don’t agree with softens, and we become unconditionally loving.

This is the way to the strongest relationship possible – it’s the most important thing.

E. Raymond Rock of Fort Myers, Florida is cofounder and principal teacher at the Southwest Florida Insight Center, http://www.SouthwestFloridaInsightCenter.com His twenty-eight years of meditation experience has taken him across four continents, including two stopovers in Thailand where he practiced in the remote northeast forests as an ordained Theravada Buddhist monk. His book, A Year to Enlightenment (Career Press/New Page Books) is now available at major bookstores and online retailers. Visit http://www.AYearToEnlightenment.com

The right dating site for you is the one the best fits who you are and what you are. You need to be clear about yourself and your goal – your personality type and what you are want. Among the most important things to consider are:

1. Your likes and dislikes

2. Your interests and hobbies

3. The type of relationship you want.

If you are new to online dating, or are simply seeking a companion, the best path is the one that leads to popular dating sites. If marriage or a long term relationship is the goal, then go for a matchmaking site.

There are also dating sites that cater to adult needs, as well as sub-categories of the adult niche such as encounters, BDSM, fetish, swinging et al.

Special interest and community dating sites also exist for almost anything you can think of…outdoor or fitness enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians etc…well, almost anything you can think of. So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.

There are free sites. Not recommended but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and profile matching systems. There are also less expensive paid sites but, naturally, with fewer features.

Here are some things to consider when choosing a dating service:

1. Database: Obviously, you don’t want to be in a site where you are the only girl. You also need choice so that you may come to, hopefully, the best match for what you want in a mate.

2. Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership(s)?

3. Features. Which features are the most important to you?

a) Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?

b) Chat and IM? There are websites who offer chat rooms, live web (or video) chat and IM (Instant Messaging) on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy with just email?

c) Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?

d) Privacy: Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?

e) Safety. There are websites that perform background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and criminal background. Would you feel safer using this feature?

These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service. Do your homework, choose wisely and you might find the just the person you seek.

David Kamau offers objective dating site reviews and online dating tips at his website. Now find out how to receive free best-selling ebooks on Romantic Ideas and tips about dating.

1. Talk from the heart

Communication problems in relationships are the primary cause of so much grief and unhappiness between people. You must have experienced loads of examples throughout your life of people completely misunderstanding what you were trying to communicate. It doesn’t matter whether you are speaking face to face, on the phone, writing a letter or email, or tapping out a text… you can guarantee that at times your message will not be received as intended. So what’s the answer? The best advice is to improve your communication skills — and that starts largely with understanding your self better. If you know and understand your own mind better, and how it operates, you will better understand other people. Start to honestly and openly ‘watch’ yourself. Learn about the way you work. When you can be honest and observant about your own self, as it is, flaws and all, you will be vulnerable enough to communicate deeply and meaningfully with your significant others. Most of the time we live behind emotional walls and facades, guarded and sealed off from real emotional interaction with others. As you become free of that through self-knowledge, you develop the ability to transcend and overcome all relationships problems.

2. Embracing change

Emotional problems in relationships are so painful, aren’t they? It really hurts when your relationship is not working the way you want it to. One of the things that I’ve noticed helps overcome emotional problems in relationships is simply to embrace and accept change and transformation in your relationships. You have to expect it. What worked in your relationship 10 years ago, 3 years ago, 2 weeks ago, or yesterday is not necessarily going to work today. Try and maintain your flexibility and adapt. Keep working on how you can make your relationships even more special and meaningful today. Get back to how creative you were when you first started dating. Recognise that your relationships aren’t static things, they are organic and growing. You have to nourish them and heal them when anything attacks them or stops them from growing.

3. Be the change

You’ve been searching for ‘relationships problems and answers’ in a proactive way, which is great. You have initiated the process of healing your relationships and getting back to a position where you can transform and create blissful relationships. You don’t need to wait for your relationship partner to catch up and want to participate again in creating this magnificent partnership. You can be the change that you want to see. Take 100% responsibility for healing and nurturing your relationships. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean blaming yourself for your relationship problems, it means taking an ‘if it’s to be, it’s up to me’ attitude to creating relationship magic from here on out. Change what you do, change your habitual patterns of behaviour. You are an immensely resourceful being and you have the answers to all your problems within you. Declare that your relationships are worth fighting for rather than fighting in!

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Not everyone has serious relationships problems. There are many couples who sail through life enjoying their togetherness. Why not you? Maybe you have had poor relationship role models or simply you and your partner made poor choices by default. It really doesn’t matter. What matters is that you equip yourself with the knowledge and resources to begin creating wonderful loving relationships from here on out. You won’t find a better resource than http://www.blissfulrelationship.com which offers a compilation of the love strategies and secrets used to build the top 1% of long-term, love-filled, happily-ever-after relationships. These couples spilled the secrets that they use to overcome communication problems and emotional problems in their relationships and build wonderful joyful marriages. It’s a brilliant source of genuine ‘been there, done that’ relationship help that will shortcut your journey to a beautiful problem-free relationship.

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Valentine’s Day has shadows of both the Christian and Roman traditions. Celebrated famously on February 14 every year, some believe that Valentine’s Day has its history and origin in the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalia. The latter was an annual feasting and celebration by the Romans to keep fearful wolves at bay from damaging their crops. Lupercalia was celebrated on February 15 with the young men striking the women because it was believed that these blows would make them more fertile. This association of Lupercalia with fertility is probably one reason why Valentine’s Day is linked to this ancient Roman festival. Also, on the eve of Lupercalia, which is on February 14, it was quite popular for young women to find their partners for the festival. The romantic origin of Valentine’s Day can even be traced to this practice.

No matter what the history and origin of Valentine’s Day includes, it sure includes this patron saint named St. Valentine. Now history even has it that there has been more than one legend related to St. Valentine. Summing two legends, we now know that there were two saints (of the same name Valentine) belonging to the early Christian church. One legend holds that when the Roman Emperor Claudius II forbade young men to marry to make better soldiers out of single men, a priest named Valentine defied the orders and secretly married young couples. Consequently he was beheaded on February 14 for his ‘crime’. Some even hold that Valentine was killed for trying to help Christians escape the atrocities prevailing in the Roman prisons. But whatever the facts, ever since, February 14 came to be celebrated as Valentine’s Day commemorating this great patron of people in love worldwide. The other story talks of another Valentine who was a children’s favorite but was despised by the Romans for his religious defiance. The Romans had him behind the bars but the children still managed to send fond messages to their favorite Valentine. The current custom of exchanging love messages on Valentine’s Day might have roots to this age-old tale.

Yet another legend holds that when Valentine was in prison, he fell in love with the prison guard’s daughter. And history states that before his death, he wrote a letter to his beloved signing off as ‘From your Valentine’. It’s not known to which extent these Valentine’s Day legends related to its origin are true, but this expression ‘From your Valentine’ sure caught hold like wildfire. And people still send gifts and cards on Valentine’s Day with this tag hanging from them—‘From your Valentine’! So you keep the tradition going too.

Probably, the Americans began exchanging handmade Valentine’s Day cards in the early years of the eighteenth century. And around 1840, a person called Esther A. Howland began selling the first big production of Valentine’s Day greetings in America. Now, apart from all the facts and figures of Valentine’s Day history and origin, one thing that’s for sure is the choice of February as the month for celebrating love. In ancient Rome, February was the official kick-off month for the season of spring and was a time to feel happy all over again. Then in the Middle Ages, it was quite a popular belief in France and England that February was the birds’ mating season. All these and many more taken together contributed to the consolidation of mid-February as the time for Valentines.

Finally, around 498 AD, Pope Gelasius I declared February 14 as St. Valentine’s Day!

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If he is ‘comfortable in his own skin’ or equal or greater in power and ‘being’ in relation to HER, THEN she can open up to him because she can trust his nonverbal physical congruence.

(As humans) we are each and all relationally equal, we just let different types of less than ideal relationships to happen to us.

That’s why you’ve not gotten the success you’ve wanted in the past. Mating today is primarily about relational power..it’s a power game upfront now and that’s all.

Pass that test (continually and habitually) by just accepting your own independent and relational power and you will massively attract women more than any pheromones.

We are all relational equals.

If you want to enhance your ‘inner game’ I recommend leveraging truth itself because when you have cognition of truth and accept it, it’s power can easily extend beyond belief and beyond your own limitations.

You could repeat something like this..make it an incantation if you will.

“I am relationally equal to the most beautiful and powerful people on earth because I am one. They are one.”

The leverage of truth is a shortcut to strong physiological change.

You can harness it because it’s power is much greater than anyone’s own personality or uniqueness.

As human’s we are each a living miracle. We are each comprised of miraculous internal interdependent systems and astounding facts that support our life.

And that alone is tremendous value.

You can be a Brad Pitt, Bill Gates, Nelly Furtado or the guy down the hall yet we are all human. We all have the same basic biological necessities such as food, water and defecation (had to say it).

We are ‘one’ in that sense and as humans we are each equal. Each of us has unlimited potential to influences others through relationships of all sorts.

The amazing secret to power and success with women is to always remain relationally equal to all people at all times, before you would ever approach them.

That means that you are ALWAYS comfortable in your own skin because you won’t allow any perceptions, co-dependencies, coercions or dis-empowerment to get in the way of your power.

When you can accept your true relational power, you will be comfortable not only in your own skin when you’re around yourself but also when you’re around the most powerful people.

They will notice and they will respect you. You physiology will continue to convey that you only see them as an equal. That’s how powerful relationships can begin.

Other people of power have to ‘trust you’ in order to open a relationship up with you that means anything. The same thing goes with women.

If you don’t have relational power or power in ‘relation to’ a hot, sexy woman when you are in front of her and nonverbally/verbally communicating, you’re already losing.

She unconsciously and instantly pegs you as below her when she won’t open up to anyone unless he is at least an equal.

Once she can see that you have physical congruence and your body represents the strength of your reality that you aren’t afraid of or intimidated by (the power she represents and) her, THEN she can start being more interested in you.

She has to trust you to be comfortable in your own skin, then it’s quite easy to accelerate and develop a relationship from there.

Once you represent relational power, then S.O.N.A.R.R. will commence and the relationship can proceed to the aspect you want it to be in; that of stimulus-response or growing attraction to you.

Relational power goes beyond personal authority and ‘inner game’ because it represents the truth of who you are in relationship to a woman and when it comes to sex or ever getting any, that is ALL that matters here.

Many a man have strong inner beliefs and self-esteem but they crack down and start becoming nervous and shifty when they ‘response’ to a beautiful woman. That relational truth is quite apparent to her and it doesn’t matter what words his mouth is saying.

All that matters is who he is in FRONT OF HER and in continuing to communicate to her so she can determine whether she can further be attracted to him. THAT is relational power. It’s basically REMAINING high in character and actually BEING yourself at all times around all people.

Don’t even think of ‘acting’ it; it’s a waste of time, wrong mindset completely and will get you rejected.

Female intuition will see through to the truth (in an open and non-socially distorted environment or when isolated with her), although they’ll often give leeway to guys who are in between and/or working on it (not seduction, but character building who have some quality attributes of higher character).

So when it comes to attraction and seducing women (in a win/win way), learn to truly BE comfortable in your own skin. BE that guy who never gives up his power when he is around other people and all of
a sudden you’re powerful too!

Then it’s easy to just be ‘natural’ around anyone and take relational authority to tell a good story and get people laughing and more interested in you, especially the women.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

How could I have the power and retain a woman’s interest and attraction in a relationship?

It’s SIMPLE. I was a high character or quality guy to begin with. I always was the way I see it. I was generically what women wanted and what they say they wanted; funny, intriguing, good-looking, social status, etc.

A decade ago I committed to consciously improving myself (a byproduct effect of some negative sexual transmutation or frustration). That was my ‘inner character’.

I really was and still am a great catch; funny, interesting, deep, fascinating, better looking than average, intelligent, etc.

But enough about me..what about you? Do you think you’re a ‘good catch’?

But somehow it hasn’t ’seemed enough’ even though our grandfathers did fine, right?

When you just are that guy who has those great character traits that women are looking for AND YOU’RE STILL HAVING TROUBLE WITH WOMEN, let me tell you this;

so did I. For much of a decade with most ‘American’ women. I couldn’t figure out why it was so DIFFICULT to meet women and get a relationship started but once I was in it, they fell for me, followed me, joined the Navy for 6 years to be closer to me, wanted to marry me (many times), etc. etc.

That’s the way it should be and that’s what women want. They love the feeling of deep attraction..it’s way better than chocolate.

But why ON EARTH was it so difficult to ’start’ things? Even moreso, how could I have success every time I stepped outside the U.S…I questioned that for a decade until I found the answer.

So many guys (and their teachers) put pressure on themselves like they’re great big dumbasses when they really already are mostly what women want.

It’s not even that they have to conform to the screwed up social reality, but that they just have to see the truth like I did.

The closest thing to the truth is what I present with my teachings and they’re often so objective that I can’t even let my personality shine because I am the messenger.

How is it that men end up getting comfortable in the relationship, drop down their guard, start farting, etc. and can have power and control in the relationship yet women (in most cases) have ‘the power’ hands down when (or before) the relationship begins?

Fascinating isn’t it.

The answer to all of your problems is truly just to BE YOURSELF at all times.

I don’t mean farting, scratching and sniffing necessarily but I mean truly being comfortable in your own skin BEFORE, DURING AND AFTER ‘any’ relationship that you could ever be in.

It will alleviate a LOT of your headaches and you’ll find yourself having more power, more relationships and more sex than ever before too.

Stop playing games of ‘chasing women’ and have them chasing you instead (like it’s supposed to be and naturally is).

Learn to see the grand game of what’s really going on and you’ll actually be ABLE to truly BE comfortable around the sexiest women on earth and that’s where it all begins.

When they can ‘trust you’ physiologically, it’s on.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

The valuation of papa-grihas should be equal or very nearly equal. The boy’s papa-grihas’ value could be one point more or less than one point. Sudha-jathakam or chovva-dosham are to be considered at this point.

The dasa-sandhi or sama-dasa should match very well. There are several dasas- several years each- in every one’s life. Each dasa brings in sickness or health, poverty or prosperity, war or peace. What ever may be in store for him, reflections can be seen on this mirror of astrology. It is like a sine curve, ups and downs at regular predictable intervals. Similarly the girl’s horoscope will show a different sine curve. The difference should be such as to balance the negative side of the curves-dasas. The poverty of the husband’s dasa should meet the prosperity sine curve of the wife’s dasa. In other words, it should be a perfect balance. Their life together should be smooth; the sharpness of the unfavorable dasas should be blunted and blended in harmony.

A near perfect marriage is possible.

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It’s very simple. Just ‘be’ the ’social alpha’ in any environment you go in (every environment if you can).

It’s not really a secret that high status people and celebrities have women chasing them and that they can get sex a lot.

Is it their ‘personality’, is it their looks? is it their ‘inner game’? Or is it something that is sort of apathetic in a way?

Yes, it’s the female desire to be connected with high status.

It matters now more than ever (unfortunately) because the American and other Western cultures have become an extremely socio-centric culture. There’s more importance than ever placed upon social status.

It’s quite easy to see the things women will do to gain higher social status and it’s kind of ridiculous. Look at t.v. shows like swimsuit or modeling competitions. So many industries are formed by the desire and exploitation of higher female social status.

So just be the guy that’s high social status or who has high social value and you’re in.

Women will crawl out of the woodwork and be more interested all of a sudden when you have some social status (including money and nice cars, social proof (other women being interested in you) or see that you have social favor and power.

It’s a great tool of leverage to massively attract women but it’s up to you to have control over it and not let gold-digging women use you.

If you can keep relational authority over your relationships with these ’status’ desiring women by differentiating your goal with them and their desire for your money, you will have a lot of success and sex.

These things can be called ‘attractor’s’ and they’re great for starting new relationships but it’s up to you to weed through the gold-diggers and to have the character to take it to where you want the relationship to go anyways.

A lot of rich guys don’t have the natural character strength to take things to the bedroom and end up getting used by all kinds of socially leeching gold-diggers who are just looking for higher social status and privilege.

That is all ’social character’ and it is the root of many man’s demise, not to mention the source of tortuous conflict within women when it comes to the nature of attraction and emotional pure desire itself.

It’s up to you to differentiate a woman’s natural character (even J.Lo has one) from her acquired socially adaptive behavior.

So how do you ‘be’ high social status to attract women?

Social proof (basically having other seemingly high status women interested in you); this will work miracles.

Money, looks, fame, popular talent, cars, money, money..

But what about if you don’t have those things? Since women are looking for equal or higher value in a man than they are it’s going to be difficult to compare to pro athletes and celebrities.

Having social skill or networking abilities is important then. When you can simply connect yourself with other high status, powerful people then you are essentially a social ‘equal’ of theirs.

Social networking is a great way to invite lots of beautiful women into your lifestyle. And you’d better have ’some kind of’ social skill in a matrix that is so focused on it.

To gain access to these people you will often have to not only be a relational equal (independent and unashamed in your own right), you will probably have to offer something of value in exchange for group status.

Interdependence is the key to fast-forward your social status by getting connected with other powerful people. But you have to be equal in the beginning instead of feeling ‘further down the social hierarchy’.

Overall, being a high social character man is the least important in life, but having it balanced within your foundational character (natural and inner) can lead to an exciting lifestyle that will open up all kinds of doors to plentiful relationships where the women can see the true you.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.

There are examples of this everywhere including about every time that a group of people gather together.

Someone is basically going to step up and ‘take charge’ of that social group or setting. Sometimes this is by default the person with the highest social status or position within the social culture or subculture.

Taking immediate or environmental control of a group so that they become the stimulus to your response is a powerful thing to do.

Women notice this quite easily and it’s giving them some character to start further extrapolating.

Usually it will be known subtly and not so subtly that one person is displaying power, influence and control over other people for a short time being.

Usually it’s the most outspoken, sanguine people that will take ‘relational authority’ in new environments, even starting conversations out of the blue for the sake of talking.

Often times there may be relational power struggles, etc. (Just watch ‘The Apprentice’ or ‘Survivor’).

The sign of a great leader is one that can empower the people to get things done without causing resentment but rather inspiration.

But what does relational authority have to do with being an alpha male, N.I.S. alpha male, dating and success with women?

A lot.

Women are looking for alpha ‘characteristics’ or ‘attributes’ in men. In a social environment they will consciously and unconsciously seek out the ‘alpha male’ of the group.

Now, here’s where things are kind of interesting and I’ll try to cover this all here..

Though there may be one outspoken loud dude who just kind of takes over immediately, it doesn’t meant that he has the true relational authority or is the one who should deserve to be the leader of a group of social people.

How do I know? I’ve been in situations where I was the one with the true relational authority yet outspoken people take what I call ‘immediate relational authority’.

I’ll give you some examples where you can see people taking relational authority; friendships, corporate environments, work groups, task forces, group projects, toast-masters, best man at the wedding, MC’s, hosts, comedians, calls to action (ie. the farm scene in ‘Last of the Mohicans’ where they’re recruiting Colonials to join the Army)…

If you want more power and social status, take relational authority more often. Telling a great story to a group of people is taking relational authority. More important than the story itself is how you tell it and how congruent you are.

The more of a stimulus and representation you have of presenting the story, the more of a great response can be had. We’ve all heard average stories from boisterous people but it was o.k.

You’ve probably got better stories than that. I’m saying to take the sweet time to tell the story the way it should be. Unfortunately the shyer people may not take much relational authority and thus are missing out on a lot of new opportunities to attract women.

So START!

Here’s the good news. When you take immediate relational authority, women notice. You’ve generically become the Social Alpha of the group. If you continue that authority they’ll be more interested.

Why? It’s engrained in a woman’s being to seek out and attach herself with alpha male status in relation to the group. This ‘favor’ will continue to ensure prosperity and safety of the couple.

Taking relational authority means that you are equal or greater to everyone in relational power, you have something valuable to say and you have absolutely no excuses for ‘taking the stage’ and sharing it.

In group settings you’ll notice that strong leaders don’t always talk the most but when they do talk, what they have to say is fully felt and they take full relational authority. This upgrades them in the eyes of the group if they just didn’t know yet.

Relational Authority.

It’s a sort of ‘validation’ of your independence in the group standing and you must do it if you want power AND social status or respect.

I’ll talk more about this in other articles as it’s a power subject so keep on learnin’.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself.